Girl meets guy, girl hurts guy, guy vows never to feel that way again. During all future relationships he guards his feelings keeping distance between himself and others. It begins to carry over into his work life; he gains a reputation around the office for being distant and unapproachable making him unpromotable. Every girl he meets he sabotages with his own growing insecurities. After awhile he is devoured by his insecurities as he loses the ability to relate and connect with other people. Family becomes distant; friends become non-existent; relationships become impossible, all because of a wall he put up to protect from pain.
He started out trying to protect his happiness and ended up killing it himself. He started out trying to defend against pain and ended up opening the door and letting the pain in. You CANNOT wall up hurt and expect to keep more hurt out. Deal with your issues, work through your problems, learn your lessons, make the necessary changes, but don’t wall yourself in while you do it. Not only do you keep out happiness but you also prevent any help that might be coming from arriving. Pain is a part of life, without it we wouldn’t know what happiness is, but don’t be so frightened by it that you allow it to destroy you.