I was talking with some associates a few days prior to making this post and they were doing what most adults do when they get together, they were talking about money. What started out as a bit of humor with one of them using their finances as an excuse not to go out ended up turning into a completely different conversation all together. They began to talk about life and how they will never be able to get to where they want to be because they weren’t born as members of the elite. They begin to talk about just doing enough to get through the day and actually began to encourage and promote the fact that they wanted they do just enough to get by and even though they felt they were better, they weren’t going to “waste their time” at their job trying to show it. An interesting concept to be sure, but sadly one that is shared by the vast majority of people that I’ve encountered.
As I walked up they included me in the conversation with a series of jokes about my work habits and ethics. They sarcastically admired my dedication and focus, they then followed that up with the “he’s still too young to understand that these people ain’t gonna give you nothing.” I thanked them for allowing me to enter the conversation and then proceeded to share my take on life.
“Sure life isn’t going to give you anything and neither are the people at your workplace, you have to work for what you want you have to earn it.”
They said, “So you’re trying to say we don’t deserve more money. We work hard and we deserve a raise.”
I said, “You do work hard, and you get paid for what you do, if you want more money the equation is simple, you first have to do more work. If you increase your value to your company, your company will try to reciprocate by increasing their value to you, which normally means better compensation.”
They said, “You’re still young, wait until life teaches you some lessons, I work hard when I leave here I don’t need to work hard while I’m here.”
I said, “So you work hard when you’re at home watching TV, but you take it easy when you’re at work trying to earn a paycheck. That doesn’t make sense to me, so I suppose you dress in professional attire at your house as well, because you have on your pajamas in the work place.”
They said, “I look good when I need to.”
I said, “So how do you dress when you go to the store?”
They Said, “Like this why? I don’t go to the store to look good; I go there to shop and come back home.”
I said, “So you basically look good when you go to the club but you look like you just woke up when you go anywhere else. You work hard at relaxing when you’re at home, but you take it easy everywhere else. You do just enough to get the job done, but you want more money to do the job that you were hired to do. That is a very interesting take on life.”
They said, “Well when you say it like that, it makes us sound like to old Betties crying over nothing. This is why we don’t like talking to you; you always make people feel like it’s their fault. I can only imagine what it’s like to be with you.”
They began to laugh with each other and hide their honest feelings under the guise of a joke. I laughed with them as I said, “Yeah, I’m a rough person to be with. I don’t mean to make you guys feel bad, but what you’re saying doesn’t make sense to me, I understand it because I have been there. But look here, I thought like that for 4 years and it got me know where, I decided to try something else and in 4 months, I started to see a difference.” As I turned to walk away, I looked back and simply said “think about it.”
I am able to communicate with some people like this because I have a report with them. I have worked with them, helped them, and they know that I’m not coming from a condescending or otherwise negative place when I talk to them. I wouldn’t advise you communicating with people like this until you know that you won’t set them off with it. Big bombs have short fuses.
But on to the quote, which is essentially a quote about self-esteem. I am saying in this quote what I have been saying since I first started talking to people, one of the core principles of my philosophy. Your worth in compensation is directly related to your value to that company either in real personal value added and/or in perceived positional value added. But these to items are related, your position is related to your personal value, it is as they say a delayed indicator. Meaning it’s a representation of where you were, not necessarily where you are. All of this plays a role in the quote for this reason, self-esteem controls RPV which in turn has an effect on PPV.
It’s like this, if you don’t believe you’re worth it, then you won’t work like you are. You will bring less to the table, and in turn will be viewed as less valuable, when it’s time to make cutbacks, normally the least valuable resources get pushed out first. I have never met someone that dressed like they just woke up when they showed up for work and actually care about what they do while they are at work. And let’s face it, in order for you to be the best you can be at any job, you have to care about your job. Dress and appearance are easy ways for someone to gauge where you are in your growth and development cycle. If you’re on the other end of this, think about it this way. If you want to be that super cool professional, if you dress like it your behavior will adjust accordingly. You should always be presentable, if for nothing else then for the fact that you never know who you are going to meet while you’re out there not trying to impress anybody. I don’t mean all dolled up, but I do mean looking presentable. It’s more about the swag then the actual clothes but don’t skip town on those either. High self worth means that you care enough about yourself to make sure that you’re always presentable, that you’re always bettering yourself. You’re always trying to get to that next level because you feel you’re worth it. Believing that you are worth is will cause you to work harder to get it, and to carry yourself like you already have it.